Helping Children with ADHD Build Friendships at School

Making and keeping friends can sometimes feel more challenging for children with ADHD. Differences in attention, impulse control and behaviour can mean that peers don’t always understand their reactions in social situations. However, with the right support and strategies, children with ADHD can thrive socially and enjoy positive, lasting friendships.

Tips for Children with ADHD

Do:

• Find shared interests – joining a club or activity they enjoy can help children connect with peers who have similar hobbies.

• Be themselves – true friends will value them for who they are.

• Choose the right environment – sitting away from distractions in class can make it easier to focus and feel included.

• Make clear plans – agree with friends on when and where to meet at break times to avoid confusion.

• Stay organised – keeping on top of school items and equipment helps children feel more confident and less stressed.

Don’t:

• Interrupt or butt in – encourage waiting for their turn in conversations, just as they see others doing.

• React aggressively – if someone tries to provoke them, walking away and speaking to a teacher is best.

• Get involved in buying or selling items – this often leads to arguments and trouble.

• Follow negative peer pressure – remind them not to do things that could get them into trouble just to “fit in.”

• Feel embarrassed about medication – explain that ADHD medication is just like using an inhaler for asthma; it helps their brain concentrate, and there’s no shame in that.

Friendships are incredibly important for wellbeing and self-esteem. Children with ADHD may need extra support to navigate social challenges, but with encouragement and practical strategies, they can form strong, supportive peer relationships.

At the Autism Assessment Centre, we provide advice and assessments for children with ADHD and autism. If you’d like to find out more about how we can support your child, please get in touch with us here.